Aargh another one. A blogger in UK has been fired for calling his boss "evil" in his blog. So if you thought you were safe as long as you dont mention company's secrets, or said the company was wrong immoral and unethical and the next Enron, well think again. He didnt name the boss or the company, just dropped a hint about the company's name and mentioned, his Boss is evil, in his blog.
So here are some tips to help those who blog and work, and especially those who blog about work.
1.Your Boss will read it.
Thanks to office gossip, search engines and karma, your boss is bound, to read your blog. Especially if you write something bad about your Boss.
So write something good about your Boss. If you cant, be sarcastic, without giving the details. A blogger can get fired for calling his Boss "Evil" not for calling the Boss "Inspiring".
What matters is not what they know you think, but what the blog says.
And more importantly you have made it tough for the Company PRO to explain, they want to fire you for calling your Boss (sarcastically) Inspiring.
2.Write in codes.
And give the key to your readers after verifying their identity. (Dont be dumb enough to mention it your colleagues at work.)
Simple code, your Boss can be called the Alien from Saturn. (Dont use this name because your Boss could read this post too). And write a fictional series about the Alien from Saturn.
Now you have made it tougher for your company PRO to explain that they think your Boss is an Alien from Saturn.
3.Write in smart code.
Instead of words like stupid, irritating, dumb, hitler, idiotic,moron, use a single word "wonderful". And let your friends know when you say wonderful you dont mean wonderful.
Makes it tough for the company PRO to explain they are going to fire you for calling your Boss "wonderful". And earns you points with your Boss too. If you get tired of wonderful, include amazing,inspiring,fab,marvellous, brilliant, encouraging, cool.
4.Be careful about abusing another Blogger
You could end up abusing your Boss who is using an annon id. You might not get fired. But then you value your appraisal dont you.
5.What applies for your Boss applies for your colleagues too.
Who knows they could become your Boss oneday. So dont directly blog about them.
6.Never ever support action by other corporates against bloggers.
Say Freedom has Responsibilites too.
I know its sad, but then, they should have listened to wise donkey and read this post and followed the instructions.
7.Avoid talking about yourself.
Oh sorry was that a bucket of ice water on you?I know you want to desperately mention that you just won an Oscar (or its equivalent in your life).
The best way to deal with this would be to write two blogs ,one official and another unofficial.
In the official one write how life is wonderful and how you are wonderful to everyone. And how you are thankful to God your family, friends, colleagues, and Boss for something you have won or got.
In the unofficial, make it annon and refer frequently to your official blog. Point out the person mentioned in that is so amazing inspiring and caring and unreasonably modest. So your unofficial blog readers would know about the official you. And your official blog readers need not know about your dark side.
8.Its not just boss, it could be family too
Today it was a worker for calling his boss evil. Tommorrow it could be your spouse who could ask for a divorce because you said, my spouse is evil.
So apply the same rules as above for family.
Your Boss is the Alien from Saturn
Your Colleague1 is the Alien from asteroid 1
Your Spouse is the Alien from Mercury and so on.
The divorce case becomes tougher when you claim, you are just an aspiring sci-fi writer who thinks the aliens from mercury are evil.
9.What others blog about your Boss
Find out what others blog about your Boss through search engines or office gossip. And inspite of these extreme measures, if you get caught, mention to your Boss "I called you evil" But colleague ___ called you "extremely evil".
Atleast you will get the satisfaction of taking down someone else with you.
10.Encourage everyone you know to blog
If everyone blogged and if everyone wrote their Boss is evil, it would be tough for companies to fire and hire. It would become normal and ok. Even if some "evil" people would say its not ethical.
11.When your Boss asks you to blog.
Just because they want you to blog doesnt mean the company wants you to blabber.
Be formal and polite to everyone who comments. Even if you think they are a Pain.
This would just mean you will need to have three blogs.
A.The official company one.
Where you can safely say the weather is beautiful (unless you are in weather forecasting, then you could be fired for leaking secrets).
B.The official private one.
Where you can praise your Boss and thank God for giving you a challenging work environment and an adorable family.
C.The unoffial absoloutely annon one.
Where you can talk about the Aliens in the universe (here too no names or hints of the characters in your life) and the inspiring blog you came across (link to your official private blog.)
Your family might pout when you blog for hours.
Your company might not mind your blogs, but could be firm on not blogging during office hours.
Give the remote control to your kids and convince the spouse that you would mention him/her in the first page of your Sci-Fi Book. But for that you must blog everyday.
Tell your Boss you came across a research which mentions, "Blogging if done for 37 minutes during office hours, increases employee productivity and loyalty." Throw in couple of universities. Mention USA or Japan. And throw in the Koreans and Chinese. Who knows your Boss could believe you.
If you think you have to exercise caution about just your Boss,Company,Colleagues,Spouse, Family and friends,neighbours, you are wrong.
You have to watch what you write about your country too. Even if you are in USA. Well I think especially if you are in USA. If Bush popularity slips more due to Bloggers, and you arent his fan, who knows, the next war can be against you. You could be the new axis in Evil.
But even if you decide to disregard all the above, never ever write against the media.
They could organise stings when you decide to catch up with another blogger and call your meet a failure. Or ridicule you and your blogs, or worse the entire blogger community. (Hey why should I get a bad name for what you wrote).
And even if you decide to be brave about it, Never Ever write against the media in the blogsite of that media, especially in O...
(I meant Omega Galaxy blogsite, what did you think, I would say?)
Happy New Year:)
Dec 31, 2005
Aargh another one. A blogger in UK has been fired for calling his boss "evil" in his blog. So if you thought you were safe as long as you dont mention company's secrets, or said the company was wrong immoral and unethical and the next Enron, well think again. He didnt name the boss or the company, just dropped a hint about the company's name and mentioned, his Boss is evil, in his blog.
@$#!$#, Anbu , addi,Archiexyz,akruti,Amit,Amita,Angelz,
Prabir Ghose,Pinks,Priya,pramod,Phantom,Prasad,Pallavi, Pluto, Peshwa,
and other bloggers.
If I havent included your name, it would be because I didnt expect you to read this blog, and would have thought, hmmm I can get away with it. After all if I started writing the name of every blogger who has once commented it, will look like a telephone directory. Ha so in 2006, comment more on my blogs. Err just kidding, am sorry. Its actually no big deal, And wish you a Happy New Year.
For those who read it couple of days after New Year and feel guilty for not wishing me:) Relax its ok, we cant have perfect memories(and next year I am sure you would be equally understanding:D) And I prefer you any day over the bloggers who send me group emails.
Email id is still sacred to me, and I dont want to be included in every address book which the email goes to, however incredibly stupid it might seem.
And now that I have I irritated most of the readers, a review of Wise Donkey. Not the life of Gayathri E, just the blog wise donkey. If you are my regular, you can pretend to have read it, continue the last minute egreetings and make plans for celebrating the new year.For the rest who have nothing else to do, or who have been punished by the HR who finally read my description but decided to cheat me of the consultation fees.
Here it comes.
Short Sleep Solution When a judgement was passed that employer was right for firing a sleeping employee
Lessons from a cat When I got dejected, my Muse advised me to learn from a cat
Dog Dislikers A suggestion for dog dislikers, learnt from the politicians
When I received yet another forward Grrrrrrr how I hate forwards
The Journey Continues for the Kashmiri Pandits
5 minutes a woman dies due to Childbirth in India
Hunger When 24000 die Everyday from hunger and a website which helps reduce it
O3 Status : In o3 or out of o3? In for posts related to tsunami. Later in for issues post, not for the fun ones.
Life007 not a guy? Live in and marriage for Indian women
Van Gogh on Valentine Alone on Valentine's Day?
Saurabh Singh Broke my rule of not writing on persons instead of just writin on system and burnt my fingers and had to write NASA ISD - Apology Its in my favourite list coze its a lesson I guess.
Black No Filmi formulas My take on Movie "Black"
Do U Know - Gold Pollution
Do U Know - Diabetes
Do U Know - Child CSW
Do U Know - Compulsive Shopping Disorder
Do U Know - Ewaste
Do U Know - Delhi Child Sex Ratio
Do U Know - Female foeticide Laws
Do U Know - Visually Challenged Doctor
Do U Know - Manual Scavengers
Do U Know series. Started it after I got tired of telling everyone to read Infochangeindia and Indiatogether etc. It started first on a daily basis. And then reduced it gradually. Right now its only on Wedenesdays every week in blogspot.
O3 status : It was still about issues.
Do U Know - Paralympics
Do U Know - Rape laws - Age Marital Status and Gender
Do U Know - Online Volunteering
Pa Paa Pi Piii & Legal Literacy
My Favourite Love Stories
Aargh Diaries - Support oppose or ignore a lawsuit against an Indian blogger Aargh Diaries - An incident worth remembering.
Aargh Diaries - Men Mars, Women Venus, Eunuch Hell
O3 status : Aah now the time to exit o3 again, after wishing all the bloggers including men Happy Women's Day of course. The reason, well I had come back to o3, because some of my friends wanted to. But when I realised that comments are made not based not the blog, but the blogger. It was time to walk again off in a huff.
And then when I heard about TOI's lawsuit against a blogger. Back in o3, under the name Aargh to talk about it. And then wrote some entries, to bring back bloggers to that blogger, then decided to admit, who was Aargh. And then later turned Aargh into a fictional series.
The Aargh resembled the Wise Donkey(when incognito in o3) personna. Gender neutral and slightly brutal:D
So on o3, out
Kidding - Win with a Wail How the kid "won"
Aargh Diaries - Mr.Popular & Saurav Ganguly A friend from Vizag wanted tips on being Mr.Popular at parties
Aargh Diaries - World Health Day
Kidding - World Cup Wish for Indian Women from a Child
Women Cricket & Ads on TV If women cricket became popular, what would it to do to ads
Vertically Challenged Cricketer err Tendulkar Wrote during the 4th Ind-Pak ODI in Ahmedabad, when Tendulkar wanted the sight-screen shifted. If you cant make the connection on how its about being sensitive to the challenged, well... when cricket is on, I cant think of anything else:)
Do U Know - Headscarves ban in Turkey
Aargh Diaries - Cricket Catastrophe India lost 4-2 to Pakistan. That means..
Do U Know - Cost of Indian Parliament So didnt you know its more than a crore per day?
Uprooted yet waiting to blossom on Tibetians
Women Cant Drive?? Taking her for a Ride?? A response to a blog which wanted female driving banned. Search for a country which forbids women from driving and the accident rate in that country?? Read the post to find out
Aargh Diaries - Monday Morning Mystery Why has she worn a purdah to the office, Theories fly around
Insulting Men Saamna says dress of women provoke the rape, TOI says , thats just insulting to men. Agree with TOI. But then 50% of Indiatimes readers disagree with TOI. I am not suprised ..
Do U Know - Tuberculosis India accounts for nearly one third of prevalent cases globally.In India,Each day, 20,000 get infected and 5,000 develop the disease. Each year 18 lakh people develop it, of whom 8 Lakh are infectious
Aargh Diaries - When Women ask for "IT" Aargh tries to explain rape can be unwelcome.
Kidding - What can I write, When I cant write? On Anti Child Labour Day
O3 status : A small appearance in o3, since the women cant drive post was on o3. Had to post a copy of it in o3:)
Do U Know - AIDS & Assam Rifles When AIDS kills more of them, than the bullets
Aargh Diaries - Thief & Rapist Would you make the thief, your guard?
Donkee's suggestion for success at work Through a card, email and even if you get fired
Do U Know - Mumbai Waste The amount of waste Mumbai generates everyday
Bye Sob Sob Bye When I had to go on a trip for few months and a blog interview I gave on the day of departure
Still on vacation and no there were couple of posts, but no favourite posts.
And you thought I am writing every post I had writeen as my favourite post!
A Butterfly called Happiness On happiness and why I dont want to be happy
Aargh Diaries - Desires and Happiness Why always blame the desires, asks Aargh
Aargh Diaries - People we Dislike A fishpond at work
Aargh Diaries -Whats in a name Well a lot thinks Aargh
Writing from home o3 status : Back after winning an award for Best Blog on Issues. Even though I didnt participate and didnt think bloggers would remember me after I stopped blogging in o3.And no I wasnt too high after winning for Issues. Perhaps people vote, but reading the posts, and the posts making a difference is just too different. But then still nice:) Actually was sulking coze I didnt get for being funny
Aargh Diaries - Independence Day Special A fishpond at work on what I do for my country
Aargh Diaries - Not before the Knot Aargh's friend was in search of her soulmate to marry, but the guys she comes across wants to discuss only sex. Aargh advises
Do U Know - Children & Hunger Deaths Every ___ seconds a child dies from hunger
Kidding I am not Right or They are not Right Is it right when a child feels left out
Tagged - A 55 word short story - Normal When I was tagged by Colors
Do U Know - Maharashtra Child Hunger Deaths
A Poem for Pam
Do U Know - India worse than Bangladesh in IMR & MMR
Vulgar to someone
10 things your followers could have said, but didn't on Gandhi Jayanthi 2005
More to Man than Money for Me
Aargh Diaries - Men Money and Moms
Do U Know - Child Marriage Percentages How high could it be in Bihar Rajasthan MP and Andhra Pradesh? Higher than 50%?
Crazy When was she crazy and who is being crazy. A short poem
Aargh Diaries - Help I dont have a girlfriend Aargh's friend doesnt have a girl and Aargh gives 12 possible replies, when asked about the girl.
Aargh Diaries - Thank you Saurav :Boss is worried on knowing Aargh could be a blogger and could be sued.. Yeah Yeah it has something to do with IIPM..
Do U Know - Schizophrenia
Onions it will be, this Diwali : Confused on Diwali Gifts?
Do U Know - Rosa Parks
Spread the message not the virus When I received a group email from bloggers to whom I hadnt given my email id, had to write this post to convey it wasnt personal.
Btw it applies for New Year Wishes too:)
My login didnt work. And is still not working. And the wisedonkey blog is stuck on the question on Rosa Parks .Well didnt give up after o3 admin acknowledged the problem and started a new blog wisedonkee.
Won a Ms.Cool award. Actually I expected to win the Shut the *** Award. Actually the winners of the STF award wasnt announced. Would have been ironical if I had won both. Felt guilty for not voting. Felt disappointed because I couldnt post my STF acceptance speech and make the other bloggers feel guilty (heh heh).
Blame Game Guide
Do U Know - India China 1962 war
Perplexed about Premarital Sex?
Zodiac Thoughts Well it started with one zodiac and soon other zodiacs were asking for this post:)
Do U Know - Maternal and Child Heatlh
I will be dumping you I will be dumping you. Sting forgive me, but I thats what my Muse suggested after my pout on people's reaction to yet another post on maternal mortality and the appalling state of healthcare in UP
Pilgrim - The Black Cat
Dumped and Down in the Dumps On how to bounce back
Standard Response On Greg's finger salute and an program on Women and Sports
Do U Know - Delhi Water Usage
Blogging in WiseDonkee blog, hoping for WiseDonkey Blog.
Started a new blog Indian Sports minus men's cricket sania and narain. In o3 and Blogspot
Can We Do It? Convince a website that the term International Cricket includes International Women's Cricket too?
Do U Know - Unsafe Injections in India Did you know its more than 50%?
How stupid can the Wise Donkey Get? Wonders my Muse.
Pilgrim - When Heaven is not the Goal
Do U Know - Drunken Driving and BAC Limit in India
Aargh Diaries - Saurav is safer hmmm its not about Saurav actually.
Do U Know - Indian Children and Education
Kidding - Why can't I become a homemaker?
Not Psycho A Psychologist When I mentioned in my comments that I happen to be a student of Psychology, thought I better clarify some points:)
O3 status. I have tried with 6 different logins, and with all of them unable to post in o3. The wisedonkee is again stuck with a Do U Know Question
And thats it ! Not that painful, see.
I honestly dont believe its possible for a single soul to have read the post, and the contents of every link. If there exists one, do let me know. And Thanks for reading, appreciate it:)
Will be going on another trip so perhaps wont be blogging for couple of months. Then there is another trip in March till May. So not sure how much I would be blogging in 2006.
Blogging had a big impact on me personally. That what happens when you call yourself a Stay at Home Blogger. I spent time and money (tel bills ) and energy over it. And managed to come up with remarkable excuses for burnt food.
This year's resolution is to blog less, lets see if I can keep it up:)
for those who have fallen asleep
Wake up Wake up
Dec 30, 2005
The Vanars vs the Rakshas. The might wasn’t with him. But that didn’t intimidate him. As Gandhi pointed out “What is the meaning of Rama, a mere human being, with his host of monkeys, pitting himself against the insolent strength of ten-headed Ravan surrounded in supposed safety by the raging waters on all sides of Lanka? Does it not mean the conquest of physical might by spiritual strength ?” http://www.mkgandhi.org/nonviolence/Doctrine%20of%20the%20sword.htm
Vibhishan an enemy? Wouldn’t he be like his brother? Yet why trust him? Yet firmly deciding to Judge a person on the basis of character not the community
In the war before him stood Ravan. Weaponless. His actions hadnt been honourable. Then why not kill him, then. Why think the path is as important as the goal? Why tell Ravan, Go today, and Come back Tommorrow. (Cant match the eloquence in Tamil of Inru Poi, Nalai, vaa).
She choose the forests over Kingdom to be with him. Yet in the end when he called her back to the kingdom, She refused the kingdom and him.They loved each other. Neither remarried. Yet not everything the person you love does, needs to be right. http://wisedonkey.blogspot.com/2005/03/my-favourite-love-stories.html
Did they lead a happy life? Did they lead a life of royalty. Hmmm life is not fair even to the Gods and Goddessess.
Were they right always? They werent. Were they Perfect, No they werent.
Yet there are things I could learn and follow from them. I do and will do. In levels which are so small and simple. And that’s my own tribute to them.
I don’t support the violence in their name. I don’t support the loss of innocent blood in their name. I don’t care if a temple wasn’t built in the disputed site, for them.
Because I have a temple for them in my hearts, and I worship them by what I do.
This is not to say, this is the best form of worship. This is not to say, others should follow it. I follow what I think I need to follow. The choice is there for everyone. Carry them in your conscience, or in an idol, or somewhere else. We all have the Choice. And thus the Power from it. And after all he did show, that Power is The True Test of Character.
Previous entries in Pilgrim Series
Dec 29, 2005
When I came back from a trip to Chennai, some months back, I was informed there had been a shootout in the supermarket I shop. What! Oh no! What if it had been me? Now there is a joke, that like lightning, perhaps there wont be an attack there again and that its one of the "safe" places to shop.
I went only once after this, and was pointed out the "landmarks" by friends. I didnt like it, and will go there only if I have to go. But that isnt the only landmark. There are other spots in the town too, which isnt easier on my mind. Dramatically I label the town I am living in, terror town and yearn to go back to "safe" Chennai.
Terror is not new to me. I was in Mumbai during the Blasts. And once there was a bomb explosion and my sibling had been in the earlier train. Until I got the call, went through hell. And perhaps from then on, everytime someone leaves the house without me, I wonder if they would return home "safely".
Terrorism has not changed the way I live, but certainly the way I think.
I dont do anything different. Because I think its pointless to do anything different. I used to think it would be wiser avoiding the markets on the weekend, but then we do what we have to do. Just try to be more careful. Hmmm what do I mean by more careful? Always on the lookout, hmmm but I cant see in all the directions at all the time.
So other than worrying and thinking about it, I dont do anything different. Though I do watch the news a lot and call my husband whenever "something" happens.
And insensitivevly I console myself, thankfully I am not in Iraq, where it seems more of a news when there isnt a bomb blast in a week.
Sure I am paranoid, and I also worry about road accidents. But somehow dying due to terrorism seems more terrible.
The post probably seems lame. Well I am never comfortable discussing how I feel. But I will try to come to my point.
I have written over 250 posts. And though terrorism is on my mind, most of the time, this is the first post that I am writing about terrorism.
Hunger, Health, Sanitation, Law these are more important. They claim more victims. Yet, why does Terror takes so much of headline space in media. Because the reader and those who can buy the products advertised in the media, can be victims of terror but not of hunger or health issues like maternal or neo natal mortality or tuberculosis? I dont know.
Then again why only one group of terror. Why the obsession with Al Qaeda and their LeT variants. Why not the Naxals? If there is an Naxal attack, sure there is an headline, but there isnt an outrage. Life is life, what is the difference. Or is it because Naxals dont attack in Mumbai Delhi Kolkatta Chennai and Bangalore? Another I dont know.
My heart goes out to the family of the victim. They are experiencing what I dread everyday of experiencing.
Terrorism is evil, no doubt, but its not the only evil.
And while we may not be able to bring him back, we can save someone perhaps if we click on http://www.bhookh.com Where they say 7000 Indians die everyday from hunger and a click from you , could help.
PS : If I had been born a muslim, would I away get away with 250 posts with not even one condemning Terrorism? I wonder.
Blog Post no. 252
Me Myself and I series
Dec 27, 2005
(Yes this means only 15% of the Tamilnadu rural population had access to a toilet in 2001).
The Government of Tamil Nadu honoured UNICEF Project Officer P.Amudha (in Unicef from Indian Administrative Service) with a Special Award for Outstanding Contribution to the Promotion of Rural Sanitation in the state.
Source : Unicef
Tamilnadu is considered perhaps one of the better developed states, yet if 60% of its rural population dont have access to a toilet? Then what is development?
And what do we require for change? Sincere Administration, More Money, Political Will, Involvement of the common person, Better coverage from Media. I am not sure if I know the answers.
But when I come across the figures, (while searching for my weekly Do U Know), I mostly end up in despair, and wonder if anything can be really done.
Well seems positive change and development, is not just a dream, it can be a reality too.
Akruti Navin Curious The Bard Prasad jAdE Priya got it right:)
godolphin got it right (but the answer disappeared. sorry godo no idea why) and vaibhav also got it right (because others got it right:D)
Read Previous Do U Knows
28th December. Happy Birthday Prasad Hope you have a wonderful day:)
Search Engines allowed. Answer on Thursday
Dec 24, 2005
1.No, you can't be a doctor and more importantly called a doctor. Psychiatry is not the same as Psychology.
(Unless you study a lot and get that Ph D or something like that to be called a doctor. Easier to become a politician and get a Hon.Degree.)
2.If you are a poor speller, this could be stressful for you. After writing Psychology everytime, you will have to wonder, now did I spell it right?
3.Friends and family will talk little to you, or be very wary of you. Some might close their eyes, while talking to you, thinking, that, would prevent you, from hypnotising them.
4.If you ever get anything you want, everyone would believe you got it because you manipulated everyone.
5.You will be easily labelled cunning, oversmart, bombastic, manipulative, creepy and cold hearted.
6.Everyone assumes, you use everything they say for research. So they will keep saying things, that they think, will be useful to your research.
7.Everyone would think, you are crazy and studying psychology to find a cure for yourself. (But, they wouldn't think you are visually challenged if you choose to become an ophthalmologist (hmmm, this too is not good for those bad in spelling))
8.People would call you a Psycho.
9.People don't want you to understand them, Understand this. And telling someone that they should consult a professional, they might be schizophrenic is not the same as telling someone, get your blood pressure checked or go for an ultrasound scan.
10.Everyone likes to think they are good at psychology and you better nod when they say, "now a fish doesnt need a degree to swim."
Well if you don't mind these, then wonderful! (uh are you an alien?) Here is excellent information if you want to become a psychologist (You would be amazed at the avenues).
Well unfortunately since I didn't think of this post earlier this year, I am a student of Psychology.
And I solemnly declare that I do not use my blogs or blog comments for my research or anything, remotely connected with Psychology.
And I am not a serial killer, trying to find out why I strangled 5343234 people.
And the 5343234 is just a random number not a secret number to hypnotise you.
Dec 22, 2005
I got excited when Uncle asked me what I wanted to become.
I decided to come out with my secret.
Taking a deep breath, I said "I want to become a homemaker".
And everyone gasped.
Uncle thought I was joking and being rude to him.
Aunty questioned my mother on my ranks and was more shocked to realise I was a topper.
"What a waste of education", said my aunty.
Now if I studied to become an engineer and decided later to become a film star or politician, I am sure she wouldnt have said that.
"Well I will study BSc Home Science" I replied.
Uncle laughed and said "And sit at home and watch TV".
Yeah just like you sit at office and watch net porn I wanted to ask, but of course I didn't say.
"And who will marry you" asked my uncle?
My sister came to my rescue and said she wanted to become a doctor. A diabetologist. (Required before almost every surgery in India).
Everyone made approving noises.
And I left the room.
Later my sister came into my room.
I was tense. Even though I was aware that the idea wouldn't be welcomed. I had hoped for a word of support from my Mom. But she just looked dismayed.
I want to be a homemaker, because I genuinely believe I can be good at it.
And perhaps as my own tribute to Mom. And yet..
"You know the GDP of the nation comes down when the housekeeper becomes a homemaker" my sister joked, trying to break the ice.
"And why cant they assign a value to the tasks?" I retorted angrily.
"Well its done out of love.." She said hesitantly.
"I am sure Sachin, Shahrukh etc would love their job. But that doesn't diminish the value does it.? Being a homemaker can be valued and even though it need not be paid." I said angrily.
She seemed to be losing her cool as she said,"Well.. you know with appliances and hired help.. the job is easier nowadays"
"In a corporate structure one doesn't go to the Board of Directors and say, hey your company has a sales force, and everything is mechanised. Your job is of no value." I retorted angrily.
"But why do you want to become a homemaker of all things" she asked.
Even though I was upset, I couldnt help laughing.
"If Mom had been a politician or star or doctor, and if I decided to follow her, you wouldn't have asked would you? She did a lot for the family, even before we were born. I just appreciate it and think I would be good at it."
"Well then why don't you think about a career in interior design.."she started.
"What! You think thats what mother did?" I was frustrated.
She looked away and seemed to struggle with the thought of asking and then asked "Are you gay?"
I stared stunned.
I wanted to be hysteric, but then perhaps they would fix an appointment with a therapist (perhaps they have already done it).
So calmly I said "no".
"Well who will marry you? And in marriage do you think you will have respect?"
"Well just because I dont earn, doesnt mean I won't be working. And anyway, isnt it pointless to marry someone who marries you just for the sake of your career. What if I get laid off or later meet with an accident, and become unfit to earn. Would that mean the end of marriage?"
She frowned, and perhaps got frustrated.
And she got up and left with, "Well I think its just another form of rebellion and you will change your mind later. Trust me, if you dont, then life is going to be very tough for you."
I shrugged and said ok.
To be honest I am anxious. If I dont have support from my family, then how can I expect society to understand me.
But then, when the women started earning first, things wouldnt have been easy for them too. So why give up the idea so soon..
A 15 year old boy.
DO READ THIS ON Genuine Progress Indicator
Kidding is a fictional series. Read previous Kidding entries Post no.249
Dec 20, 2005
CRY based on 7th All India Education Survey, 2002.
Ramses, Akruti, Curious, The Bard, Vaibhav, Prasad, Navin, Priya got it right
BangaloreGuy got close to it.
More information on Children and Education from the same source.
•In India, only 53% of habitation has a primary school
•In India, only 20% of habitation has a secondary school
•On an average an upper primary school is 3 km away in 22% of areas under habitations.
•In nearly 60% of schools, there are less than two teachers to teach Classes I to V
•On an average, there are less than three teachers per primary school. They have to manageclasses from I to V every day
•High cost of private education and need to work to support their families and little interest instudies are the reasons given by 3 in every four drop-outs as the reason they leave
•Dropout rates increase alarmingly in class III to V, its 50% for boys, 58% for girls
•1 in 40, primary school in India is conducted in open spaces or tents
•More than 50 per cent of girls fail to enroll in school; those that do are likely to drop out bythe age of 12.
Can we become a developed nation if this situation continues?
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Dec 19, 2005
C1 : "But what about the past? He has done so much. One cant dump him, just because he isnt useful now"
C2 : "Its not dumping. Its just relocating."
C1 : "This is just not Indian culture"
C2 : "Define Indian Culture. And even if its Indian culture, who says everyone should follow it"
C1 : "And what about his hurt. So callous. Its just politics when someone new enters"
C2 : "This has nothing to do with it. Its just a coincidence thats all"
Unable to restrain myself, say, "You know whats amazing C2 you are from Bengal and C1 you from Maharashtra and still you say these things about Saurav.
C1 and C2 stare at me and C1 says coldly "We werent talking about Saurav Ganguly. This is about my father and his new Home."
AAAargh so some people dont talk about Saurav!!
Couldnt resist adding "Indian culture is about taking care of the boy's parents only?"
Now C1 is angry with me for making him feel, he should think about his wife's parents too. And C2 is angry with me for questioning Indian Culture.
Wish people would just talk about Saurav Ganguly. Life would be lot easier for me.
PS : Oh for the folks who are wondering about the title, well if I wrote what I felt about Female Foeticide and what about wives who dont take care of their parents, or asked if the wife is a homemaker, would the husband think its his duty to take care of the wives parents emotionally and financially, would anyone read? Its safer to write about Saurav, if one wants people to read their blogs.
After all Baghban wouldnt have been a hit, if Amitabh had 4 daughters instead of 4 sons.
Aargh Diaries is a fictional series, and Wise Donkey is NOT Aargh. Read Previous in Aargh Diaries Series
Dec 13, 2005
In India while driving a motor vehicle,if a person, has in his/her blood alcohol exceeding 30mg per 100 ml of blood detected in a test by a breath analyser, That person shall be punishable for the first offence with imprisonment for a term which may extend to six months, or with fine which may extend to two thousand rupees, or with both; and for a second or subsequent offence, if committed within three years of the commission of the previous similar offence, with imprisonment for a term which may extend to two years, or with fine which may extend to three thousand rupees, or with both.
Curious got it right
Dec 11, 2005
Well you would know about Men's Cricket in India, Sania and Narain. How about some other news?
Indian captain Mithali Raj lead the team to an impressive 4 - 1 win in the One Day Series against England in India.
Karuna Jain for 169 runs and Jhulan Goswami for 11 wickets shared the trophy for Eve of the Tournament.
The 3rd match in Guwahati was watched by 20000 persons while the 4th match in Silchar was also watched by nearly 20000 people
First ODI England won
Second ODI India won
Third ODI India won
Fourth ODI India won
Fifth ODI India won
Shiv Kapur won the Volvo Masters of Asia in Bangkok
Earlier in the UBS HongKong Open Golf Tournament Jeev Milkha Singh hung in for a top-20 finish, the best result among the Indians in difficult conditions.Jeev carded a one-over 73 on the final day to finish tied 18th but it was Gaurav Ghei (72) who was the only Indian to improve upon his previous day's position, moving from 32nd to 26th. Shiv Kapur (73), playing with Ghei, ended 30th.
World Chess Cup Khanty Mansiysk, near Moscow, 27th Nov - 17th Dec.
3 Indians participated in World Chess Cup
Grandmaster and former World Junior Champion Pentala Harikrishna's was defeated in the tie-break of Round three against mighty Russian Grandmaster Alexey Dreev in Khanty-Mansyisk K Sasikiran and National Champion Surya Shekhar Ganguly squandered advantageous positions to perish in their round two tie-breakers. Yes this was the other Ganguly I mentioned in the title.
Karan Rastogi will be going to Rotterdam for the qualifying rounds of the ABN Amro Championships next year.
India's Chetan Anand won the Welsh Open on December 4th 2005 beating England's Rajiv Ouseph 15-6 15-11
Sahara Champions Trophy in Chennai from 10th -18th December 2005. India lost the first match to reigning champions Spain but won the second match against Pakistan.
Team and Schedule
India lost the opener against Spain
India won a thrilling match against Pakistan
South Asia Football Federation Championship (SAFF Cup) in Karachi from 7th - 17th December. India has entered the semi finals by beating Nepal and Bhutan
Team and schedule
first match India win against Nepal
second match India win against Bhutan
Reid and Taylor Bombay Gymkhana Instant snooker tournament, to be held in Mumbai from December 13-17.
So thats the news this fortnight. And you thought Sachin was the only news:)
"Mahapurna advised Ramanujacarya to go to the great Goshtipurna and accept initiation in the Vaisnava mantra from him.
At the behest of Mahapurna, Ramanuja approached Goshtipurna for the mantra, but was refused, for Goshtipurna was reluctant to give such a confidential mantra to a relative newcomer. Ramanujacarya approached Goshtipurna 18 times with great humility, finally breaking into tears and pleading for his mercy. At last Goshtipurna gave him the mantra, after first swearing him to absolute secrecy. When Ramanuja had vowed never to repeat the mantra to anyone else, Goshtipurna whispered the mantra in his ear saying, “This mantra is most powerful. Whoever chants it will attain liberation; he will return to the spiritual Vaikuntha planets where he will achieve the personal service of the Lord.”
As he left the temple and proceeded towards Sri Rangam, a crowd gathered around Ramanujacarya. They had heard that he was to receive the mantra from Goshtipurna, and begged to know its secret. Inspired to distribute the magic of the mantra that could free anyone who chants it from material existence, Ramanuja announced to the crowd: “Please chant this mantra: Om namo narayanaya.”
The crowd was overjoyed, and felt that they had been truly blessed, but when the news reached Goshtipurna, he called for Ramanuja. Outraged that his new disciple would disobey his order so quickly, he demanded an explanation. “I told you to keep this mantra a secret. Why have you so quickly revealed it to the masses? Do you know the penalty for such behavior?”
Ramanuja replied, “Yes, gurudeva, I may go to hell for disobeying your order.“
“Then why have you done such a thing?”
“ My beloved teacher, I realized that the power of the mantra given by you could deliver everyone who hears it. When I saw the earnest desire of these people to be saved from material life, I could not contain myself. I felt some divine inspiration to distribute your mercy to all of them. If this is a great sin, then I must be punished by your holiness. Condemn me to hell, then, if my sin warrants it. But please do not show your wrath to these simple people who begged me for the mantra.” "
What this means to me :
The two main principles for me
1.Rather than worry about what I should do to go to heaven, think on what I can do now, to make life better for those around.
2.Accepting responsibility for one's Action : He didnt say, forgive me. But said I am prepared to go to hell.
And bear in mind
Ramanuja didnt go around with a sword saying, say "Om Namo Narayana" or else...
Nor did he say, those who dont chant "Om Namo Narayana" will go to hell.
This has nothing to do with superiority of one path over other. But with thinking, God has created me, God has also created others. I am closer to God, when I come closer to God's other creations.
Dec 10, 2005
Self (Wise Donkey) : What do you mean Muse?
Muse : You see a program on women and Indian sports, instead of watching further and moaning with the anchor, after 10 minutes of the program think, let me start a blog on it. Awareness is the first step and let me do what I can not just for Women Sports but also for all sports not highlighted by main stream media . And you started a blog on Indian Sports minus Men's cricket, Sania and Narain in FYI and SportsFYI on November 28th 2005.
Self : Well yeah...
Muse : Then you expect Women's cricket matches held in India would have if not live, atleast hourly reports. on 4th December 2005.
Self : True but when BBC could cover it when its held in India, surely Indians would cover it. After all Indian did reach the World Cup Finals.
Muse : Forget it and then you expected Indian mainstream internet media to report these matches. You expected to find the coverage under cricket, but in some cases , searched hopefully in Other Sports and even miscel. on 5th December 2005.
Self : International Sport. In India. That too Cricket. Too much to ask for a match report? And 20000 people saw it in Guwahati and nearly 20000 in Silchar.
Muse : So what.Then you expected that even if they dont report these matches ATLEAST they would acknowledge that women's international cricket is international cricket and mention in their events calender when they have a International Cricket section. Ha how stupid to think people will understand basic grammar on 5th December 2005
Self : If they think no one is going to read this, so no need to report fine. But atleast acknowledge it exists.
Muse : And Today. You expected that if a website reported one match it would report the next match (Oh should I say again How Stupid! ) But then you were sane enough to not write a blog mentioning who reported the 4th match and not the 5th match..
And Finally you expected that there would be consistent reports. Ha how stupid.
For the 5th One Day International between England and India in India, The BBC and Cricinfo says England won the toss, Rediff UNI says India won the toss. Rediff Uni says Karuna Jain for 169 runs and Jhulan Goswami for 11 wickets shared the trophy for Eve of the Tournament. Cricinfo says Jhulan Goswami got the Player of the Series.In Hindu Amitabha Das Sharma says Karuna got the received the `player of the tournament' jointly with Jhulan. You cross check reports to give a broader picture. Now do you have to go through every report to get the actual picture? Or will you get the correct picture even then. Oh how stupid to expect the correct consistent reports from media majors.
But then who cares for Indian Sports minus men's cricket, Sania and Narain? Why do you spend money and time everyday reporting on these things, Why do you think of doing a weekly round up of these things. Why do you get still hurt, upset and cry.
No comments No reads. Why do you still care, How Stupid Can you get.
Self : Muse. Even I dont know how much less I should expect, And I dont know How Stupid I can get.
Dec 6, 2005
According to WHO, 63 per cent of injections in India are unsafe. Of this, nearly one third carry a risk of transmitting blood-borne viruses.
While 68.7% of injections at government health facilities were found to be unsafe, 59.9% were unsafe in private clinics and hospitals
An injection is classified as unsafe if it has the potential to transmit blood-borne viruses and/or is wrongly administered such that it can cause local infection and/or a reaction.
- The rural sector accounted for a higher percentage of unsafe injections -- 65.9% -- compared to urban areas where the proportion was 54.9%.
- Injection safety is higher with plastic syringes -- the odds of an injection being unsafe are 12 times higher with a glass syringe.
- Written guidelines for sterilisation are available at only 10.1% of all health facilities in the country.
- Over half the doctors and those who prescribe injections do not know the correct sterilisation process.
- Only 84.2% of government health facilities have sterilisation equipment.
- Only 76.9% immunisation centres and 57.7% of private clinics use sterilisation equipment.
- Over three-fourths or 75.9% of the available sterilisation equipment is functional.
Dec 5, 2005
In its Sports Page
http://www.ndtv.com/sports/default.asp NDTV has an Events Calender. For 7th December 2005, now it reads
International Cricket 7 December 2005 No match found for requested date
Soccer 7 December 2005 No match found for requested date
Tennis 7 December 2005 No match found for requested date
Motorsports 7 December 2005 No match found for requested date
Golf 7 December 2005 USPGA Tommy Bahama Challenge Grayhawk GC, Scottsdale, Arizona
Hockey 7 December 2005
Dec 7 Fourth ODI, Silchar is an International Cricket Event, technically.
For those who didnt know, The 3rd One Dayer was watched by 20000 people in Guwahati.The Indians reached the finals of the World Cup.And in today's NDTV's sports news there isnt even a mention that India won yesterday's one dayer.
Yet, NDTV did a wonderful program on Women and Sports some days back, hosted by Burkha Dutt, which also included few women cricketers.
NDTV has a feedback sectionhttp://www.ndtv.com/feedback/default.asp
How much time will it take for you to write.
Please include the India vs England Women's One Day International series in your events calendar International Cricket section.Dec 7 Fourth ODI, SilcharDec 9 Fifth ODI, Calcutta
They play cricket and its an international match
IF thats not possible, please change the "International Cricket" category to "International Men's Cricket"
or in the message instead of "No match found for requested date " please make it "No match that we know of, found for requested date"Thank you and have a wonderful day.
Of course you dont have to write the same thing. And actually you dont have to write it , if you dont believe in it:) But of course I am hoping you will.
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This is not to ask for more coverage from NDTV of women's cricket. If it chooses to not report about an India's win in an International Match in Indian soil watched by 20000 people at the stadium, its its Choice. But surely it has to acknowledge that Women's International Cricket comes under the category of International Cricket?
We are NOT requesting for Coverage, just Acknowledgement. Is that too much?
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Dec 4, 2005
Its an One Day International in India yet its not in the cricket news, its not in the other sports news either. You guessed it, thats because its women's cricket.
For those of you who are unaware, enraged by a program on lack of coverage (And when Burkha Dutt from NDTV doesnt know, how can we expect others to know, I started a blog on Indian Sports minus Men's cricket and Sania in O3 and in Blogger.)
And its a tough job since other than Men's Cricket, I dont watch much except the Tennis Grand Slams, the Football World cup and if possible Skating. Well I didnt think of that as a handicap, at that time, after all, there are plenty of stuff that I write based on Search Engines:)
All I wanted was to give links to articles which give details on International Events with Indian participation.
And now back to today's problem.
I knew a cricket match was scheduled between India and England in Guwahati Today. For the earlier matches I had used the BBC link, but perhaps now I should try some Indian Websites
So I start on what I think would be an easy journery.All I want to know is the who won the toss, the teams names. So here is a list of sports headlines from various Sources
Let me start with Espnstar website : Their fixtures http://www.espnstar.com/cricket/cricket_fixtures.html doesnt mention this series, .But then I didnt check this first I went to news http://www.espnstar.com/cricket/cricket_index.html and well nothing there.So let me search for women cricket. Aargh http://www.espnstar.com/search/searchcurrent.jsp says Searched for women cricket Sorry no Results Found.
Lets move to Rediff http://in.rediff.com/sports/index.html the sports page doesnt mention. And its not in Today in Sports. The Cricket page http://in.rediff.com/cricket/index.html no luck. And its not in cricket news http://in.rediff.com/cricket/news.htm Perhaps I should try their search engine http://sitesearch.rediff.com/dirsrch/default.asp?MT=women%20cricket%20England%20India&search=site and search witin rediff. It gives 2002 , oh let me forget it, if its not in the first page
Oh how about Sify. Its not in the sports page http://sify.com/sports/ Its not in the cricket page http://sify.com/sports/cricket/index.php .And to be on the safe side checked the other sports page too http://sify.com/sports/others/index.php No luck.
Well how about Indiatimes (I love their Men's cricket live commentary) http://cricket.indiatimes.com/ again nothing
Oh I forgot Yahoo cricket http://in.sports.yahoo.com/cricket/new_cricket.html Nothing
So let me try MSN http://www.msn.co.in/sports/ Nothing
Indian Express has a seperate section for cricket and yet http://cricket.expressindia.com/ has nothing
How could I forget NDTV. Surely now that Burkha knows, she would follow the matches. Its not mentioned in their cricket page http://origin.ndtv.com/sports/cricket/ and its not in the main sports page http://origin.ndtv.com/sports/default.asp Oh great. But surely its hidden somewhere. Let me try the NDTV Sports Today feature.
4 December 2005
So after trying to browse through these pages for more than 2 hours (there are still some mortals who dont have broadband and have to use a dial up through an intercom with a “rain affected” telephone line”. I go back to BBC. http://www.bbcworld.co.uk Click on cricket Link. Then click on Women's cricket Come to http://news.bbc.co.uk/sport1/hi/cricket/womens_cricket/4489324.stm
Aah Thankfully its an England Match and Thankfully we still have BBC.
Now for the Wise Donkey Women's Cricket News Challenge
Find a LIVE SCORE reporting on the One Day series between India and England which is being held in India by an Indian website.
PS : India beat England by 8 wickets
update AFTER THE WIN
Seems 20000 people came to watch, not bad !!
After the Win Mentions
Rediff.com front page, after we scroll down a bit, a link in the sports section.http://in.rediff.com/cricket/2005/dec/04eves.htm (From PTI )
Indian Express Cricket section in http://cricket.expressindia.com/ have an article http://cricket.expressindia.com/fulleistory.php?content_id=59478 (From PTI )
Indiatimes cricket http://cricket.indiatimes.com/ have an article http://cricket.indiatimes.com/articleshow/1317838.cms (From PTI )
Yahoo cricket page http://in.sports.yahoo.com/cricket/new_cricket.html have an article http://in.sports.yahoo.com/051204/32/61d4y.html
Those who didnt make the mention
Sify.com no mention in sports http://sify.com/sports/ No mention in cricket section http://sify.com/sports/cricket/index.php No mention in other Sport section too http://sify.com/sports/others/index.php
NDTV..com no mention in Cricket section http://origin.ndtv.com/sports/cricket/ No mention in more sports section http://origin.ndtv.com/sports/cricket/morestories.asp no mention in Sports section http://origin.ndtv.com/sports/
MSN.Co.in no mention in http://www.msn.co.in/sports/
ESPNSTAR.com no mention in main news, cricket news or more cricket news http://www.espnstar.com/cricket/cricket_news.html
BBC was the only one from the mainstream web media, which followed the match while it was happening.
If BBC could cover from England, surely we can cover from India, when its held in India!
Dec 3, 2005
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Dec 1, 2005
The boy is too young to comprehend her death
And he is too young to die too.
He thinks he is alone.
But he isnt.
He is one among the estimated 600000 children who become infected with HIV EACH year.
And he is one among the 90%, born to a mother infected with the Virus.
Yet he need not have been infected.
The UNICEF estimates that the number of children who become HIV positive every year could be MORE THAN HALVED if pregnant women living with HIV received comprehensive services including anti-retroviral drugs,
But then only 10% of the women who need these, are getting them,
And his mother wasnt in that 10%.
And he isnt in the fewer than 5 per cent of HIV-positive children who receivetreatment
He is one among the millions of children who have lost parents to the disease and go without support.
So now alone after birth
He wont be alone at death.
His life defined by statistics of minute.
A child dies of an AIDS-related illness
A child becomes infected with HIV
So Some "minute" he will die,
but then, the next minute, another too will die.
Another World AIDS Day
Another day of promises, speeches and pledges
But will the one this year make a difference for him
Will the one this year help another mother, and another child?
Or will they just be a part of another statistic.
And did this take a minute to read?
And already another child dead
And another infected.
Alone and uncared in life,
Together with other uncared in death.
His mother wanted to save him, but was helpless
We arent, are we?
ADDITIONAL INFORMATION ON MOTHER TO CHILD HIV TRANSMISSION PREVENTION
Around 1 per cent of pregnant women are HIV-positive;
95 per cent live in developing countries, along with 90 per cent of all HIV-positive children.
If an HIV-positive woman becomes pregnant, there is a 35 per cent chance that she will transmit the virus to her child if no preventative action is taken.
Every year, more than 700,000 children become HIV-positive via transmission from their parents.
Some 15-20 per cent are infected during pregnancy, 50 per cent during delivery and 33 per cent through breastfeeding.
Pregnant women who are HIV-positive can halve the chances of passing HIV on to their babies by taking antiretroviral drugs. Treatment options include a one-month course of zidovudine (AZT) during the last weeks of pregnancy, or a single dose of nevirapine during delivery, followed by a single dose to the infant within 72 hours of birth. The single dose and follow-up can be administered for as little as $10. Obstetrical procedures such as a Caesarean section may also reduce transmission but is often not feasible in many developing countries.
For HIV-positive mothers with limited access to clean water and sanitation, the choice of whether to breastfeed or not can be a painful dilemma. New mothers must weigh the risk of passing on the infection to their infants against the risk of denying them breastmilk. During the first two months, a bottle-fed baby is nearly six times more likely to die from diarrhoeal, respiratory or other infections, compared to a breastfed child, mostly because contaminated water is used in mixing the formula, bottles are unclean and other reasons. Strategies for decreasing the risk of HIV infection include shortening the duration of breastfeeding and preventing and promptly treating breast problems, along with sores or thrush in an infant’s mouth. Reducing the length of breastfeeding from two years to six months alone can reduce the risk of transmission by two thirds. Source
An Example of how Mother to Child Transmission has been prevented in India. Do read it.
Another on AIDS : Right to Life for the Wife
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