The new kid who has joined the office was grumbling to the yuppie guy. "I dont have a girlfriend because all women care about is money. They are liars and hypocrites when they say they look for character humour and intelligence etc"
Well on a Monday Morning I have work to do. But couldnt help wondering, how many wives have been burnt to death for not bringing in the money and how many husbands have been divorced and killed because they have stopped earning in India. Let a homemaker stop doing her job, there would whispers and suggestions of death or a divorce lawyer.
*Based on this, how much would it hurt the men, if all men were labelled as animals, yet few men dont care if they label all women as Golddiggers. Perhaps I should ask, are you speaking about your mom. Aaargh men hate it when I involve their moms in the discussion. But if they think so highly of her, then why do they think other women cant be like her, or that their mom too was young at a point of time, and other guys could have insulted her the way they are insulting women now, that, their mom would have hoped their sons, would be different..
To say the few girls that I have met, care about money is not the same as saying all girls care only about money and they are liars and hypocrites when they say they dont.
Well why should I care, many women today can earn the money and take care of herself, but there are some men who need dowry to supplement their income and boost their ego, and a wife to wash the vessels. And thanks to society thinking they are less precious, numerically atleast women have become more precious.
Hi guy when you say money is all that all women are looking
And when they say no, they dont, all of them are lying
If he stops earning, many wives dont think of killing
But there are husbands who kill when their wives stops bringing
All men are not same, just like all women arent, is my thinking
But when you generalise women, exactly about whom are you thinking
Did you pause to think, when young, the same of your mom too others would have been saying
And after couple of decades too, many men havent changed their thinking
Aargh I better stop this pondering and get back to working
Since towards me, my Boss is now looking.
*To me to imply that because of dowry deaths, to think all men would have money in their priorities is as stupid as to think that because of some golddiggers, all women would be gold diggers or liars if they say no they arent.
PS : Its not easy answering personal questions, for me, I think it could be equally tough for others. I do think it makes one vulnerable, and feel it shouldnt be used to form judgements and generalisations. There might have been 2 posts in O3 by bloggers who happen to be male, taking swipes at female bloggers preferences in tags. But I must admit I am disappointed when I realise that therent have been protests by male bloggers against generalising women. And if a blogger (male or female) generalises men based on tags, do leave a link, I wouldnt hesitate to argue against it.
Tommorrow if a blogger writes men are wrong when they mention in their tags that money is not important to them. of course money is important. Look at the dowry deaths and how many guys would share the wedding expenses, and that the male bloggers in o3 are perhaps from another planet.
I wouldnt type
or hmmm perhaps you have a point
or interesting/great observation
or ok lets have fun with this fight
or lets see what the guys say about this
or well we cant expect bloggers to be honest in this forum
or men will never tell the truth and will argue throughout their lives that they never tell the truth, etc.
Even if the post is written by a dowry victim. And just women are not dowry victims.
Men can be victim of this system too.The bride's father, her brothers, her male friends, and her son if she has one, all are victims and get hurt when she is hurt.
I am against generalisations, not against men or women.