Even though I have a happy marriage, I am a staunch supporter of those who want to remain single. And by single I dont mean live in relationships, but just feeling complete even if one doesnt have relationships.
As I said earlier, relationships are more like bungee jumping , not for everyone , though it can have its unmatched moments of thrills.
And staying single is still not easy these days. And I am not talking about the Child Marriage practice which exists almost everywhere in India.
Its not just parents colleagues neighbours and the milkman/woman. Its impossible to maintain an inbox without receiving an email about the various girls/guys who are waiting just for you, and who would, with a flash of magic, make your now miserable life heavenly.
And if its not marriage its dating. In any and every website.
So in face of this social pressure, how does one convince oneself to stay single when one Wants to stay Single. Well some gender neutral thoughts on the advantages of staying single.
1.You dont have to worry about making the right choice.
2.You wont have to worry about being dumped.
3.You dont have the illusion of not being single. After all many relationships do break. Before or after marriage.
4.You dont have to share the Computer, TV, Bathroom, Money and well everything else. Otherwise its only the mobile which you dont have to share.Worse you could end up with a mate who prefers the most irritating ringtone. (You may avoid the terrible TV programs with 2 TVs and terrible movies with strictly single viewing decision and terrible music taste with headphones or earplugs, but ringtones!!)
5.Perhaps you dont have to put up with inlaws who are always suspicious of you
6.Perhaps you dont have to be euphoric and look enthusiastic with your mate and then discover your mate is cheating on you with your "best" friend or a murderer or a golddigger or a maniac. They flash warning signs on mutual funds ads but unfortunately not on dating and matrimonial ads.
7.You dont have to remember more birthdays and valentine days and worry over gifts for your mate. And on birthdays, who knows better than you, what you like. Just buy one present for yourself.
8.You can travel anywhere without taking into account any other preferences. And if you forget to switch off the lights, no one would smirk at you and berate you for being irresponsible.
9.You can have a career or decide to not have a career without worrying what it would also mean for the family.
10. Perhaps you can be more responsible and learn to take care of yourself, instead of believing someone will care for you forever only to be shattered later.
11.You dont have to worry about the mate's moods, preferences etc or read books on the right method to tell your mate about body odour
12.Perhaps , you can read this blog at home, without your mate looking over your shoulder wondering if you are having an online affair. Or you may not have to worry about your mate having an affair while you are blogging.
At worst people will wonder if you are homosexual or have a "broken heart" or or if you havent started using the right fairness cream.
If you give some of these reasons you will be accused of being selfish. But whats the point of life if you cant live the life the way you want to.
Your parents will ask for someone to look after you/ after them etc. But then just point out your mate could be like someone unpleasant from their favourite soap.
Your friends might trying fixing you on blind dates. Well if you dont want it, just dump them or send this blog post link to them till they get the message.
Sure you could end up as virgins, but then marriage or any other kind of relationships arent guarantee for great sex either. And anyway you wouldnt also have to worry about unwanted pregnancies or HIV from oral sex (Medium HIV risk) or french kissing (Now who checks the partners mouth with a torch to check for open wounds in the mouth??) And you dont have to worry about the other sexually transmitted diseases. Anyway dont confuse relationship with sex. One could always find like minded sensible persons, who want you for your body and not your mind, money, soul etc and will not be hypocritical about it.
And last but not the least you wont have someone to blame for your mistakes.
And a person to sign forms when you are hospitalised..But then whats the point of life you cant live it the way you want to live?
Orphans survive, and if you want to, so can you in this society without entering into relationships for the sake of it.
So if you want to; decide you want to stay,
single and enjoy life on your terms everyday.
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